BTaylor Solutions

Individual, Couple & Family Counsellor

Emotionally Focused Counsellor

Sex Addiction Counsellor

Family Mediator

Bruce L. Taylor, B.A,, B.Ed., M.A., M.Div.

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Counselling Services


Couple/Marriage

    Power-sharing issues

    Feeling valued, respected, supported & believed in

    Different emotional needs

    Balance of dependence & independence

    Gender issues: how women & men think, feel and act

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    Holistic relationships: mind, body & soul

    Effective communication

    Marriage enrichment & attunement

    Dealing with affairs

    Reconciliation

    Chronic stress of modern families

    Steps of forgiveness

    Intimacy difficulties

    Premature ejaculation

    Religious/spiritual/faith issues: connection & belonging

    Pursuit of happiness & contentment

    Polyamorous relationships

    Great loving sex


Separation

    Comparison of “Reasons to Stay - Reasons to Go”

    How to do it right

    Loneliness

    Grieving

    Honouring the good

    Transitional relationships

    Checking in baggage

    Post-separation issues

    Children’s success at school strategies


Parenting

    Parenting skills

    Co-parenting skills: two-home families

    Shared parenting plans

    Best interests of the children


Individual

    Stress, anxiety, sadness & depression

    Integration of mind, body & soul

    Insecurity issues

    Emotional needs: hurts, fears, etc.

    Meaning in life

    Relationship problems

    Life transitions

    Crisis management

    Grief & loss

    Addiction


Child & Adolescent

    Separation & divorce

    Meaning in life


Sex Addiction

All obsessive-compulsive sexual behaviours

Youth/adult cybersex & pornography addictions

Polyamorous relationships

Counselling for partners of sex addicts

Sex Addiction Counsellor. Highly trained by leaders in the field

  of addictions and relationships such as Dr. Susan Johnson, Dr.

  Terrence Real, Dr. Patrick Carnes, Dr. Lance Dodes, Dr. Esther

  Perel, and others. Therapy also derived from the research and

  schools of thought of Dr. Bruce Alexander, Dr. Gene Heyman,

  Dr. Norman Doidge, Dr. Stanton Peele, Dr. Marc Lewis, Dr.

  Daniel Perlman, and others. Specialist in sex addiction with a

  large practice and program for both the addict in recovery, the

  partner in recovery, the couple's relationship recovery, and a

  "Sister Program" for women to help other women. Women's

  Groups are also held monthly.

Contact Info

1550 Gordon St., Unit 19

Guelph, ON N1L 1C7

519.824.2456

bruce @ btaylorsolutions.ca


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Resources

Resources: Books, DVDs and Articles


I believe clients should be as knowledgeable as possible. These are some resources that clients and I recommend most. A word about books. They take considerable time to read and usually take several years to write. Journal articles are often more succinct and up-to-date. For example, you can read about withdrawal and stonewalling in John Gottman’s The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work. Gottman, however, has updated his understanding of stonewalling in more recent books and journal articles, and even corrected it in order to distinguish between withdrawal and conflict avoidance.


Journal articles are not as accessible as books though. If you have a university student in your circle of family and friends, he/she should be able to access at home, journals and articles from his/her university library system. I don’t want to be critical of Chapters, but I stay away from their “Self Help” section and only drink their coffee. I usually find www.amazon.ca (not com) to be the least expensive source for ordering books, often with free shipping if orders are over $25.


Select the book title below to learn more from www.amazon.ca and how to order a book. This list will be up-dated from time to time. If you only have time to read one and you would like to know which one is the best, email me with the issue(s) you are interested in and I will recommend one or two, and perhaps a peer reviewed, scholarly journal article. For example, for marriage, my highest recommendation is: Hold Me Tight, Seven Conversations for a Lifetime of Love, by Dr. Sue Johnson; and for after separation, Rebuilding, When Your Relationship Ends, 3rd ed. by Dr. Bruce Fisher and Dr. Robert Alberti.



Marriage

Intimate Strangers, Men & Women Together by Lillian B. Rubin, 1983

Divorce Busting, A Step-by-Step Approach to Making Your Marriage Loving Again by Michele Weiner-Davis, 1992

• I Don't Want to Talk About It: Overcoming the Secret Legacy of Male Depression by Terrence Real, 1998

• How Can I Get Through To You? Closing the Intimacy Gap Between Men and Women by Terrence Real, 2002


Spirituality

Finding the Still Point: A Spirituality of Balance by Tom Harpur, 2002

• Happiness Around the World, The Paradox of Happy Peasants and Miserable Millionaires by Dr. Carol Graham, 2010


Mental Health

Crazy Like Us: The Globalization of the American Psyche by Ethan Watters, 2011

• Manufacturing Depression, The Secret History of A Modern Disease by Dr. Gary Greenberg, 2010.


Trauma

Trauma & Recovery, The Aftermath of Violence - from Domestic Abuse to Political Terror by Dr. Judith Herman, 1997


Marriage Preparation

I Promise You, Preparing for A Marriage That Will Last A Lifetime by Dr. Willard F. Harley, Jr., 2006


Parenting after Separation/Divorce

Mom's House, Dad's House, Making Shared Custody Work by Dr. Isolina Ricci, 1980

• Helping Your Kids Cope With Divorce, The Sandcastles Way by M. Gary Neuman and Patricia Romanowski, 1998

• Surviving the Breakup, How Children and Parents Cope With Divorce by Judith S. Wallerstein and Joan Berlin Kelly, 1980

* "Children" by Dr. Ross W. Greene, 1988

• Putting Children First, A Guide for Parents Breaking Up by Hanna McDonough & Christina Bartha, 1999

• When My Parents Forgot How to Be Friends by Jennifer Moore-Mallinos, 2005


Grief

When Someone You Love Dies by William L. Coleman, 1994


Emotional Abuse

The Emotionally Abusive Relationship by Beverly Engel, 2002

• The Verbally Abusive Man, A Woman's Guide to Deciding Whether to Stay or Go by Patricia Evans, 2006

• Healing the Scars of Emotional Abuse by Gregory L. Jantz, 1995

• Toxic Parents: Overcoming Their Hurtful Legacy and Reclaiming Your Life by Dr. Susan Forward, 2002


Life

Soul Searching, Why Psychotherapy Must Promote Moral Responsibility by Dr. William J. Doherty, 1995

• When Bad Things Happen To Good People by Harold S. Kushner, 1981


Forgiveness

Dimensions of Forgiveness, Psychological Research & Theological Perspectives ed. by Everett L. Worthington, Jr., 1998


Mood

Mind Over Mood, Change How You Feel by Changing the Way You Think by Dr. Dennis Greenberger and Dr. Christine A. Padesky, 1995


Affairs

After the Affair by Dr. Janis A. Spring, 2007

Infidelity by Elissa Gough, 1999

• The Monogamy Myth by Peggy Vaughan, 1998

• More Than Just A Friend by Dr. Tom McGinnis, 1981


Sexual Addiction

Facing the Shadow: Starting Sexual and Relationship Recovery, 2nd ed. by Dr. Patrick Carnes, 2001-2008

• Don't Call It Love, Recovery from Sexual Addiction by Dr. Patrick Carnes, 1985

• In the Shadows of the Net, Breaking Free of Compulsive Online Sexual Behavior by Dr. Patrick Carnes, Dr. David L. Delmonico, and Elizabeth Griffen, 2001

•  Healing the Shame That Binds You by John Bradshaw, 2005

Tangled in the Web, Understanding Cybersex from Fantasy to Addiction by Dr. Kimberley S. Young, 2001


Sexual Enrichment

Hot Monogamy by Dr. Patricia Love and Jo Robinson, 1995

• The New Male Sexuality by Dr. Bernie Zilbergeld, 1999

The Sexual Healing Journey: A Guide for Survivors of Sexual Abuse by Wendy Maltz, 2001


The Brain

The Developing Mind, How Relationships and the Brain Interact to Shape Who We Are by Daniel J. Siegel, 1999


Psychotherapy

The Heart & Soul of Change, Delivering What Works in Therapy, 2nd ed., edited by Dr. Barry Duncan, Dr. Scott Miller, Dr. Bruce Wampold, and Dr. Mark Hubble, 2010

Hold Me Tight, Seven Conversations for a Lifetime of Love by Dr. Sue Johnson, 2008

• The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work by Dr. John M. Gottman and Nan Silver, 1999

• The Relationship Cure, A 5 Step Guide to Strengthening Your Marriage, Family, and Friendships by Dr. John M. Gottman and Joan DeClaire, 2001

          10 Lessons to Transform Your Marriage by Dr. John M. Gottman, Dr. Julie Schwartz Gottman and Joan DeClaire, 2006

• Getting the Love You Want, A Guide for Couples by Dr. Harville Hendrix, 1988

• The New Rules of Marriage, What You Need To Know To Make Love Work by Terrence Real, 2007

• His Needs Her Needs, Building An Affair-Proof Marriage by Dr. Willard F. Harley, Jr., 2001

• The One, A Field Guide to Relationships That Last by Dr. Willard F. Harley, Jr., 2002

• Getting It Right the First Time, Creating A Healthy Marriage by Dr. Barry McCarthy and Emily J. McCarthy

• DVD. “Creating Relationships That Last: A Conversation with Dr. Sue Johnson” by Dr. Sue Johnson, 2008. Order from www.iceeft.com

• DVD. “Hold Me Tight. Conversations for Connection” by Dr. Sue Johnson, 2009. Order from www.iceeft.com

• DVD. “Re-engaging Withdrawers” by Dr. Sue Johnson, 2009. Order from www.iceeft.com


Separation/Divorce

Rebuilding, When Your Relationship Ends, 3rd ed. by Dr. Bruce Fisher and Dr. Robert Alberti, 2006, and also Workbook for Rebuilding, 2nd ed. by Dr. Bruce Fisher and Jere Bierhaus, 2000

• After Your Divorce, Creating the Good Life on Your Own by Cynthia MacGregor and Dr. Robert E. Alberti, 2006

• Reconcilable Differences, Marriages End, Families Don't by Cate Cochran, 2007

• Crazy Time: Surviving Divorce and Building a New Life by Abigail Trafford, 1992

• Tug of War, A Judges Verdict on Separation, Custody Battles, and the Bitter Realities of Family Court by Mr. Justice Harvey Brownstone, 2009